Repetition to Ritual [+Summer Uniform '19]
The repetition of daily life is where I’m finding space to fill my cup. Brushing teeth, showering (more like a weekly ritual), getting dressed, cooking, washing, driving. These tasks that often test me in patience or feel like they push me to exhaustion are where I’ve heard an invitation for rhythm, breathe and Ritual.
When life is high demand these repetitive moments are the moments where time and space can expand and self can be refound - a discovery owed to necessity.
The crash and burn that happens if your cup isn’t filled isn’t worth it. I’ve learned from picking up the pieces after a crumble over and over again, that its much more exhausting, effortful and straining on everyone to crash. So time has to be found and it can always be found in the repetition of daily life.
Since becoming a mother I’m learning, out of necessity, to make my daily tasks my rituals - intentional, consistent, and therefore exponentially more valuable. 2018 became a year of listening for and experimenting with how to be most efficient as a creator, business owner and mother (not in that order, or really any order to be honest).
My natural way of seeing and processing the world is though ‘finding a better way'. I am ALWAYS looking for ways to make everything I do more efficient and more soulful.
In my consultancy I offer to my clients the practice of posing a question to life when you are looking for answers rather than circulating with thoughts in your mind. Pose the question and then leave space with quiet or commitment to receive an answer.
My question for creating ritual from repetition - ‘Where would I like to feel more joy in my daily life?’ My answers - Style.
Getting dressed each day wasn’t enjoyable. It took too long and felt too overwhelming. And yet the throw-something-on method didn’t make me feel great and more importantly it didn’t represent me. I knew I was stepping into more visibility and wanting to invite that in so there was my doorway into a new ritual of dressing myself and cultivating my style.
As I’ve stepped into my expression of womanhood, primarily and most potently, with the journey into motherhood, beginning my 30’s, and shedding a lot of adaptations of myself that felt safe and familiar, I have found a beautiful relationship to style.
Specifically my personal expression of style. Just typing that makes me feel all womanly and happy inside. I know what it feels like to see a person strike me with their confidence and the visual representation of themselves they’ve curated and expressed. It’s ‘next level’ and a beautiful way to live consciously, to project value, worth, and creativity into the world - which are all such nourishing energies for humanity right now. We can all use more of them.
My daily ritual of getting dressed is evolving into this beautiful moment of opportunity to express myself, challenge myself, and create an environment of comfort or risk, depending on what I feel I need that day.
My past avoidance of shopping for clothes has now evolved into a love of doing style my way - shopping less, thrifting more, committing to the importance of natural fibers, exploring how textiles influence our lives and planet. Unbelievably, wool, cashmere, linen, and alpaca can all be found on thrift racks. This has brought fun back into the dreaded task of shopping (mostly deterred by the awareness of the highly destructive and unsustainable nature of the fashion industry.) I’ve realized my avoidance of shopping was a gift. It made me take the process slowly and do it consciously.
As we near spring and summer and I imagine what this summer will represent - so much individuality, creative expression, landing, grounding, and visibility - I’m preparing my “uniform.”
A uniform goes on swiftly, simply, is part of a routine and works for all the jobs you need to do in a day.
The point is not consumerism. The purpose is conscious lifestyle that feeds every part of me and protects our planet. A ritual that feels right, not forced.
Want to see more? All my styling and visual mapping of my ideas - from businesses to home and fashion are on my Pinterest page.